The inevitable happened. Miranda's dad passed on this morning. While I don't feel like we truly knew him that well as he was only involved in her life for the past 10 years (he and her mom divorced when she was 2 and he stayed out of her life), I know she'll still mourn and miss him. He is the first person I've known personally in my adult life to pass on from cancer. In his case, it goes to show, that you really can't reckon with the odds of being a lifelong smoker and getting lung cancer. I'm glad I kicked that habit long, long ago.
I guess I'm bummed for a number of reasons. I feel bad that my wife lost someone close to her. I feel bad that I'm not there with her and provide a shoulder to lean on. I feel bad that our daughter won't have a chance to know one of her grandpas.
There are at least a few things I'm happy about. I'm glad that Miranda's mom was able to go with her and Corley. I'm sure it helps a lot to have her there. I'm happy that they got down there in time on Tuesday to spend some time with him while he was conscious. I'm happy that Corley and he were able to meet and exchange words whether or not she'll ever remember it.
I'm left wondering a few things as well. I wonder if we'll stay in touch with that side of the family now that our direct link is gone. I wonder what effect this will have on Miranda. I wonder how much and when we'll tell Corley about her grandpa.
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Thursday, August 21, 2008
Monday, August 18, 2008
Upside down
Well, that's how things in my world were turned last night anyway. As I talked about last week, we got the news that one of my best friends was handed a nasty diagnosis. While they still don't have the pathology back, she's doing a great job of being a fighter and vowing to do whatever it takes. She makes me proud.
On to last night. I'm just finishing up in the shower since I decided to ride to work and then out to meet Miranda and Corley for dinner in Johnston before heading home. The phone rings and we're wondering who would be calling at 8:30 considering everyone who knows us is well aware that Corley is supposed to be in bed by then. That could only leave a wrong number or bad news. Bad news never gives a crap when it calls.
Miranda's biological dad in Tennessee hasn't been doing well. He was slapped with a lung cancer diagnosis early this year. He's been through his chemo and other treatments and seemed to be slightly on the mend. Well, we hadn't talked to him for a couple weeks and apparently he's not been doing as well as we thought. Now he's in the hospital with what appears to be Pneumonia and to top it off, it looks like there are some more masses showing up on scans they're running. Considering his all ready weakened state, and that he's a lifelong smoker, we're not expecting much of an outcome. We were planning a visit along with a stop to see our other friend in October since things will calm down at work for me. Now it's something of a race against time.
Considering Corley has never met this grandpa, we figured it's now or never. So late into the night plans were laid, plane tickets were bought, and a trip was formed. Miranda and Corley are headed out early tomorrow while I stay behind and try to get as much work through the pipe as possible in the next week and a half. Then, if the plan doesn't change, I'll be driving down to Tennessee to meet up with them before we swing back through Arkansas for a couple days to see our other friends. Not really the best timing for everything, but then again when is it?
On to last night. I'm just finishing up in the shower since I decided to ride to work and then out to meet Miranda and Corley for dinner in Johnston before heading home. The phone rings and we're wondering who would be calling at 8:30 considering everyone who knows us is well aware that Corley is supposed to be in bed by then. That could only leave a wrong number or bad news. Bad news never gives a crap when it calls.
Miranda's biological dad in Tennessee hasn't been doing well. He was slapped with a lung cancer diagnosis early this year. He's been through his chemo and other treatments and seemed to be slightly on the mend. Well, we hadn't talked to him for a couple weeks and apparently he's not been doing as well as we thought. Now he's in the hospital with what appears to be Pneumonia and to top it off, it looks like there are some more masses showing up on scans they're running. Considering his all ready weakened state, and that he's a lifelong smoker, we're not expecting much of an outcome. We were planning a visit along with a stop to see our other friend in October since things will calm down at work for me. Now it's something of a race against time.
Considering Corley has never met this grandpa, we figured it's now or never. So late into the night plans were laid, plane tickets were bought, and a trip was formed. Miranda and Corley are headed out early tomorrow while I stay behind and try to get as much work through the pipe as possible in the next week and a half. Then, if the plan doesn't change, I'll be driving down to Tennessee to meet up with them before we swing back through Arkansas for a couple days to see our other friends. Not really the best timing for everything, but then again when is it?
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